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Advanced Care Planning;How to reduce your risk of a bad death

ADVANCE CARE PLANNING

 
It is commonly said that death is the last taboo subject, now that sex is widely discussed in all the media.  As a result  the words death and dying are still difficult for many people to say so terms such as “he passed away” are still common.  There has also been a great deal of publicity and discussion about physician assisted suicide in recent years.  This is an important issue but relates to only a very small number of dramatic situations.  For many people the key issue is dying well with “physician assisted support”, to coin a new term, or, to be more accurate carer, nurse and physician assisted support. People from the age of fifty onwards therefore need to think about dying, discuss it with other people and decide on their preferences, on what they want to happen and what they would prefer not to happen, and they should write these down.  However, such an advanced care plan is not a document to be  signed, witnessed, sealed and locked away but a document that should be the basis for reflective discussion and modification over the years as things change.  
 
Discussion about dying is part of planning for the future, just like thinking about housing or finance, or what you want to do with your time, and the evidence is that people who make plans for the future and have a sense of purpose feel, and are, healthier. For so many people discussing the future with their spouse or children death is the elephant in the room
 
Fortunately the culture is changing and  people from different backgrounds are arguing the need for more open debate and discussion. This has been greatly helped by celebrities, people who are well known to the public talking about death and dying. For example Chris Evans in his excellent autobiography Call the Midlife wrote that ‘“…if you want the holiday of a lifetime, there’s a fair chance it will turn out better if you both to do a bit of research and planning, as opposed to leaving everything until your first day off work and hoping to get somewhere decent sorted to go in the next few hours”. He then describes what he did at the age of fifty to raise the subject with his nearest and dearest

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